Example:
A Regular Day: You complain about getting up early to go to your job that doesn't pay you as much as you believe you should earn. You are nice there but every time a customer asks you a question you wonder why they don't understand and how could people, in general, be so stupid. You are irritated with the fact that you only get a one hour lunch instead of two so you can go home and sit on the couch. You are then irritated you have to go back to work after lunch to finish your shift. Once you finally get off, after watching the clock for the last hour and your work productivity went down, you head home. During the drive you think on your day and spin it over and over in your head until you are so irritated you can't wait to get home to tell someone else. You get home and the first thing you do is ask your husband how his day was, he says fine, and then you let in about yours. Complain, complain, complain. When you finish he says sorry. You think about it some more and continue to rant randomly the rest of the night and every little thing reminds you of something that bothered you during the day. Finally you go to sleep only to dread waking up in the morning. And the cycle continues.
People complain a lot. I notice this in my own life and have to remind myself that my life is really not that bad. If you think your job is miserable and causing problems in your life. Change it. If you are constantly ranting to your husband about your life. Change it. Your life is not as bad as you think it is. Yesterday I saw a homeless man and thought to myself. I just bought groceries for the week and if I got stuck in traffic and my milk spoiled, I could turn the car around and go get a new gallon without feeling any different. (I ended up buying that man a sandwich) The best way to change your outlook on life is to change what you do. Read your Bible more. It will change your life. It has changed mine.
The verse that impacted me the most this week was Proverbs 29:11. I loved it so much and knew it needed to be in my daily life, I wrote it on a sticky note and put it on my fridge. Now it is memorized.
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back."
Be wise. There is an entire book in the Bible dedicated to being our handbook for wisdom. Proverbs. I have read this book multiple times, and each time I see something else to work on. Right now my work is on ranting. Has ranting has ever made a situation better? No, it has not. I have noticed that it causes me to only see the bad in situations and my husband doesn't need to hear me complain as soon as he walks through the door. If you still have a job and made money at the end of the day, you are doing good. If you don't enjoy your job, do something that makes you happy. Ranting will not solve your problems. It will only cause you to ponder the same over again and you will not gain wisdom.
Proverbs 2: 6-11
"For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding; He strokes up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly; He guards the paths of justice, and preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice, equity and every good path. When wisdom enters your heart, and knowledge is pleasant to your soul, discretion will preserve you; understanding will keep you,"
This is what I've notices since I started working on my ranting. My relationship with my husband has gotten better. We now have conversations about our day and focus on the good instead. Our lives seem to be full of blessings and not worries. We see opportunities in our day instead of focusing on the past and yesterday. We are trying to become wise, trying to become more like Jesus. Stop ranting, it will give you no benefits. See the blessings in your day and be thankful for your circumstances, they can always be worse.
this is sound wisdom!
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